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WHAT IS ADDICTION

There are a lot of definitions of addiction, they mostly revolve around our search for something outside of ourselves that will give us a sense of contentment, a longing for something that always remains just out of reach. Of course we have all had those moments when we thought we had found the answer but it never lasted and then the obsessive search begins all over again. Maybe if I mix this drug with that drug or this drink with that drink, perhaps I need another relationship, another job, more money might do the trick or a new car. The list is endless and all addictions have consequences but we carry on anyway because the obsession is more powerful than us. In the end we can lose our friends, our relationships, our jobs and end up isolated and miserable.

Avoiding pain

It is now becoming more evident that the treatment of addictions has been missing a key component and that is "unresolved trauma!" It cannot be ignored any longer and one of the biggest studies on the subject shows us why. The ACE Study (Adverse Childhood Experiences) this study involved 17,000 volunteers and the statistics were shocking but it also gave answers. It showed in no uncertain terms what the root cause of addiction was. I believe this study shows that the main reason for all addictions at some level is to avoid emotional pain. It can be feelings of less than; that you don't fit in or you don't feel good enough. It is a feeling that is deep seated. Some people describe it as a gnawing inside or a hole in the stomach that can't be filled. Sometimes we can't explain it at all. Just the loneliness of feeling disconnected from everyone and everything. Restless, irritable and discontented and they all originate from these unresolved  trauma. Now we have an answer.   All addictions only give temporary relief and eventually we have to increase whatever we are doing or taking but sooner or later there comes a point where nothing is enough It becomes the dis-ease of more because we can never satisfy this need, it is insatiable, we are trying to fill a bottomless pit! 

Answers

My own recovery journey out of drug addiction started with six weeks in a twelve-step treatment centre, followed by a number of years attending Narcotics Anonymous meetings. I spent 30+ years in active addiction and now I am 20+ years clean. Those early years starting in the treatment centre, but more importantly Narcotics Anonymous, gave me the education and the tools to stay clean and begin the recovery journey but it didn't give me everything, and it wasn't supposed to. The next stage was my responsibility.

The Search

This next stage is when I began the search for an answer to not only why after doing everything that was asked of me I still had these feelings of something is not right, these old feelings that seemed to have always been with me. Restlessness. irritable and dis-contentedness  that I believe now were the very reasons that I took drugs in the first place. Because of what I eventually learned over the years I am now 100% sure that unresolved childhood trauma is the precursor of addiction. I was only too aware that the ones I carried were unresolved in spite of the fact that I had been in recovery a few years by then. This is when I first discovered EFT and found what turned out to be this amazing technique that not only resolved my childhood traumas but did it efficiently and permanently! 

I was at last free to live my life without the shackles of the past holding me back old behaviours began to fall away.It also answered the question that I had never been able to fathom out and that was why did so many addicts in recovery, relapse or commit suicide after finding recovery and doing what was asked. Somehow the only answer I heard was "they weren't ready" and I didn't believe it. I was convinced that it was that after getting clean and having the same feelings that they used drugs or alcohol to escape in the first place, only now they were doing it with no anaesthetic and in the end the pain was too much. This was the main reason I qualified in EFT and started this practice.

A few years ago I came across some research that not only supported my theories about trauma but took it to a whole new level, enter the ACE Study  and the Ten Questions that measure your ACE count. Take it and let me know what you think.