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JANE...

"I'M SO PLEASED I TOOK THE PLUNGE"

Before I started working with Trevor I was at a very low point, and willing to try anything that could potentially help me. My anxiety was at an all-time high, and along with depression I was struggling to get through day to day life, fighting off panic attacks which was the scariest feeling I've ever felt. I felt like I was muddling through life on autopilot, and that I was failing my little boy by being so fed up day in day out. 

 

Trevor was recommended to me by a friend and I'm so glad I made that first appointment for the taster session. Trevor was warm and welcoming from the moment I met him, putting me at ease. He explained to me how my anxiety was based around unresolved trauma from my past (of which I'd had a lot!) so I decided to give it my all.

The techniques we used were easy to follow and the tapping worked brilliantly for me. The best result for me was being able to think about my partner’s suicide without feeling overwhelming anxiety and guilt that I had been carrying.

It's been a few months since I last worked with Trevor and my life feels completely different to the way it was before. I'm able to enjoy my life now, instead of just 'existing' and going through the motions. I feel I have the ability to deal with things day to day and any bad memories or feelings that may occur.

I'm so pleased I took the plunge in making that first Taster Session and can't thank Trevor enough for enabling me to finally overcome my anxiety after so long. '

CLARE...

"MY SON STARTED USING DRUGS WHEN HE WAS TWELVE"

My son has been trapped in the vicious cycle of drugs for five years, constant battle as the drugs he took destroyed him and everything around him, Public services just couldn't seem to help, they treat the child drug user as an adult and so unless their willing to engage there's nothing they can do.

 

I am an EFT practitioner myself, so I know the benefits of tapping and getting my son to agree to start working in this way was initially a battle on it own, how does tapping on your face while talking about what's going on going help!' BUT it has and it does Trevor has engaged really well with my son, and he taps We've had four sessions so far, progress is slow but effective, and being committed to the program/therapy is essential We've gone from daily drug use to 2/3 times a week so this is good progress.

 

My son started experimenting with drugs when he was twelve, he thought the drugs were helping him escape the outside world, and his inside thoughts Tapping with Trevor has helped clear and sooth the emotional charge which is starting to make way for new beginnings Changing old habits laced with drugs is not easy, Trevor has helped make this process comfortable and achievable, creating a safe space for my son to explore his unresolved emotions.

It's a tough journey for a young person to do alone and so I would recommend Trevor to any family who needs that help, support and connection We work on Skype due to travel distance, this hasn't been a barrier to therapy, in fact my son had preferred on line working, Trevor has been accommodating and flexible, while keeping strong firm boundaries, Trevor has supplied additional resources for support in between sessions.

JOHN...

"ANGRY, AGGRESSIVE AND HOSTILE"

Before I started working with Trevor I had many negative experiences in my childhood and throughout my life and just recently I had lost my dad, which just added to the negative feelings I had about myself and life in general. I have been an angry, aggressive and hostile person and have always reacted to people, places and things. I went for my first session and felt nervous and apprehensive but kept an open mind. It was about abandonment issues I had had from childhood, the anger, resentment, bitterness and not to mention the blame I had towards my mother. But after going through the experience of Tapping (EFT) I have replaced the image and feelings that were holding me back .The experience I had was nothing short of amazing and now when I go back to that same memory, there are no more negative emotions as they have been replaced by positive ones. My second session was about neglect and again emotional abandonment issues which held the same negative feelings. But by going through the same process and changing the negative image and feelings and flipping back to the image that I had replaced with this positive one … “wow”.

 

As I have been for more sessions and worked on more stuff, my attitude and aggression has calmed down a lot and I have found myself dealing with people and situations in a calmer and more civil manner which leaves me feeling better about myself and adds to the positive feelings I already have from working with Trevor and EFT.

I have felt a massive shift inside of myself and feel lighter, more confident and uplifted to the extent that I have a spring in my step and it has been noticeable by other people that I am a lot calmer. If you are reading this, please don’t take my word for it, go ahead and experience it for yourself

MARIA...

"I FEEL CALM FOR THE FIRST TIME IN FIFTEEN YEARS"

Before I attended the Taster Session and began working with Trevor, I was  

suffering with obsessive thoughts, overwhelming sadness and feelings of unworthiness. I found it so difficult to move forward in life because I just didn’t feel good enough. I suffered with crippling anxiety and panic attacks. I felt a fraud - a scared girl behind a smiling mask.

I had been through counseling for over a year but still suffered with the same feelings of sadness, panic and anxiety. Counseling helped me understand my feelings but I couldn’t control my panic, obsessive thoughts, overwhelming sadness and feelings of worthlessness. I wanted to move on with my life. I felt at ease when I met Trevor. For some reason, I knew I could relax, be myself and trust that I would be ok.

The process of working with Trevor has been amazing! I cannot believe it. I feel like a weight has finally been lifted. I can see the world again with all its ups and downs and I feel calm and able to cope again for the first time in 15 years.

The best result for me is that I feel like I am me again, happy in my own skin and I am laughing a lot more too.

TARA...

"LIFE CHANGING"

I had witnessed a lady tapping on her hands earlier this year and has asked her what she was doing... at the time she was talking to me about her son and an emotional experience regarding him.. I saw her eyes fill with tears, then she began to tap as she continued to talk and the tears went.

I had also used a youtube video to help me through a relationship break up, so was aware of EFT before I saw Trevor, but had no idea to what extent this could be so life changing..

The taster session was in a relaxed and serene environment.

Explanations of the various tapping points were given in a comprehensive fashion and a handout was given to take home.

I came away from the taster session feeling quite overwhelmed in a very positive way and at this point I already knew that I wanted to go back for more.

If you are open, have insight and want to change traumatic memories, or to bring some peace into your life, I would highly recommend this.

Trevor has had many years of experience and I trust him implicitly.

SARAH...

"THE SESSIONS WERE VERY RELAXED"

My traumas have affected me all of my adult life both mentally and emotionally.  And this has caused me to always have trust issues, particularly with men.

I found EFT very comforting, reassuring and non-intrusive.  The sessions were very relaxed with no pressure to go into extensive sad details.  The feeling of the pain leaving your body while the tapping is being used is a great feeling. It's fascinating that you can go from being very tearful thinking about the trauma to 15 minutes later being able to discuss it without feeling any sad emotions.

EFT is much more effective than conventional counseling.

Trevor is very understanding,compassionate and patient and I felt completely at ease.  I have attended other counseling sessions and found I struggled to gel and trust the counselor.

I found the results of the EFT therapy happened quickly and I could discuss my traumas without the connected sadness and anger afterwards. When the session finished I felt both tired but refreshed.

I would strongly recommend EFT Therapy as it so different to any other therapy sessions I have tried.  The combination of the tapping and the words are very therapeutic, calming and effective.  I think anyone with unresolved Trauma should give it a try as the results are very quick, effective and lasting. 

DAVID...

"I DON'T NEED TO BEHAVE OR FEEL A VICTIM OF MY PAST"

My name is David and I am 53 years old. My life before meeting Trevor, was one of an adult trying to come to terms with negative and confusing experiences of a child who grew up in the care system with major childhood traumas.

I have been in recovery for over ten years and I contacted Trevor because I was very aware of how my relationships were being affected by my behaviors. This was difficult for me to understand, because of all the work I had done on myself. I try to live life today with principles and values from a 12 step programme. I have three grown up children and I have also been in a loving relationship for over 8 years.

 

The troubles that I was experiencing with those I love, were the emotions that would arise within me when things were not so good. This I thought was due to a lack of communication and the inability to listen in awkward moments. I shared this with Trevor and explained my patterns of behaviors. He asked me some questions about my childhood and said that I might benefit some sessions with him. It was very clear to me, that my childhood experiences was still getting in the way of my relationships today.

I was at the time very afraid of rejection and accepting love from others.

I won't pretend that I did not think to myself that how can this help me or give me freedom from some of the painful memories and experiences I had as a child. I have shared a lot and did a lot of written work around my past through the 12 step programme but my past was still at the forefront of my mind, and seemed to still be relevant in my behaviors. So in a sense i realised that I had nothing to lose by working with Trevor.  

I remember Trevor sitting me down and giving me a questionnaire. He explained to me the process of revisiting my childhood especially those memories that were still painful. During our sessions the room was peaceful and tranquil and allowed me to feel comfortable and safe.

The experience of the 'tapping' in the first instance was a little strange as it was not something I had ever done before, but then it became something comfortable, relaxing and at times I could feel the tension of my past experiences lifting.  

Trevor's process allowed me to stop and recognise that I do not need to continue to behave or feel the victim of my past. In respect of my relationship, I have found some inner peace. I am able to nurture healthier relationships with my children, in particular my son. And I have found  I no longer live in my past experiences but live with my past experiences. For anyone who has experienced trauma, I would recommend this gentle, loving therapeutic journey.

JAY...

"I HAD NO IDEA OF THE IMPACT THIS WOULD HAVE ON MY LIFE"

I had been in recovery for 15 years from addiction. Due to childhood trauma I experienced traumatic experiences on a daily basis as a child of a very young age. There were many painful sad devastating experiences growing up, from sexual abuse to violent abuse from various family members. When I started the journey of recovery it had become apparent that if I wanted to fully recover I had too revisit those experiences. I had many sessions that involved years of counseling sessions. Even though I looked at these childhood traumas I could not find any peace or resolution and continued to be deeply affected by those experiences resulting in depression attempted suicide self loathing no self worth or esteem developing emotionally unstable personality disorder. I had tried hypnosis acupuncture more counseling to no avail.

Nothing seemed to work . I heard about EFT and was willing to try anything as it was such a destructive force in my life. I could not maintain relationships with women I was full of anger I had no acceptance of myself and did not understand why I was like this, I blamed myself for what had happened. I was willing to try anything. I was very skeptical at first but I was also desperate, nothing had worked before so why would this.

It felt really strange having this kind of therapy but I had no idea of the impact it would have on me and my life.

. I now have more self worth, I am more confident outgoing and forgiving.. I've learned that I am a nice good person and today have a very positive outlook on life.  I feel very fortunate and grateful for Trevor's time and patience.